It changed from the work of Alfred Kinsey, a pioneer of sexual research. His researched found that masturbation was a healthy and natural outlet of sexuality, and the foundation of all partnered activities. YAY!
What I always found interesting while studying his work, is that to get this information, he didn't ask "Do you masturbate?" but instead assumed everyone did and asked about habits. By switching the wording he got people to open up, because it reassured participants that 'everyone' was doing it.
I agree with Kinsey, masturbation is as much about health as it is pleasure. And, mutual partner satisfaction.
AND it is definitely, 100%, NOT just for men.
However, you'd be forgiven for thinking otherwise, research and historical recording is mainly about male sexuality.
The point of me including this small history lesson, is to explain that the shame and guilt that we have around masturbation is completely understandable. We've literally been brought up on information that screams 'DANGER'.
Whether you do, or don't because it is your body and always your decision, it is healthy sexual expression.
You aren't alone in your thinking ....
My personal sexual history includes a similar story I hear all the time. That we hide our solo-sexual experiences from our partners, because we 'should' be having sex with them if we want an orgasm. I spent many years keeping my vibrator stashed away, using it only on the nights that my hubby was away. Today, I don't feel guilty about having a quick solo-tumble, because I want the rush of endorphins and the feeling of sleepiness that it can give me. It is about me!
So if you do partake in this wonder of solo-love, here are a few ideas to spice it up ...