Most of the special days that we feel forced to celebrate are just normal days that have been made into something fancy, for the benefit of selling more stuff or ideas that we do not actually need or really desire. However, we still feel compelled to follow the herd and make sure that we are keeping up with all those wonderfully staged Instagram worthy posts that we see, constantly! We get pulled in by the need to do what’s seen as right and expected. I’m sure that you can relate to this… No judgement here!
Now, where Valentine’s day is concerned, or as the Romans used to call it Lupercalia, where women were paired off to men by lottery, no less, lovely! I don’t celebrate it at all…WHAT?! I hear you gasp, a sex educator who doesn’t DO Valentines. Yep, it’s true. I have always felt that it is more important to celebrate each other a lot more than once a year, so regular date nights are a must for us.
There is so much pressure on both partners, to shower love, make the evening go with a bang and most of all ensure that the effort we put in is reciprocated. But we are not mind readers, and this is just asking for trouble – expecting perfection (without communication) and getting less!