Emily Nagoski wrote in her book Come as You Are - “If there is one thing that you take from the whole of this book, is the practice of mindfulness”. Now she wrote a lot of great stuff about desire, arousal, and having great sex. Yet this was the part which she said to ensure all the readers took away with them. Why?
In this particular subject, it is because it will get you out of your head. Have you ever concentrated on your breathing before? When you think about it, well you actually have to think about it, there is no room for anything else. Deep breathing is a great way to relax, to get more oxygen into your system and it can elevate sensations.
There are many ways to breathe, and if you’ve ever taken a yoga or meditation class then you’ll likely have some experience with this. My favourite way of relaxing through breath is what I call the ‘round-a-bout’, I’m sure it has a proper name but that got stuck one day. Sitting or laying, take a deep breath and imagine it flowing up the front of your body (toes, tummy and head), breath out imagining it flowing down the back of your body (head, spine and heals). Take it on a loop around and around. You can also reverse it after 10, which is what I like.
Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it – remember I’m not woo, yet I’m happy to share the love around breathing exercises.