You, Better & Best Sex

The doors for my coaching programme will be open 8 February 2021.

This is the very first exciting launch of this signature programme. Check out more about the amazing content below, and make sure you sign-up to the waitlist to be reminded of cart opening.

Where do I begin, in my world there is so much to teach, so much to experience and enjoy that I want to share EVERYTHING with you!

I’m going to start at the beginning, and join you for a journey to becoming sex positive, sex informed and sex aware.

Learning about myself was a life-changer for me, it has been a life-changer for many people I know, and it will be a life-changer for you.

Quick note – if you are looking for a formal, straight laced, humourless way of learning, I’m sorry, I’m not for you!

Do any of these sound like you?

  • Has sex changed with your partner over the years? From hot and heavy, to hard work and a responsibility? Has your relationship nearly become sexless?

  • Do you struggle to get alone time from your children, and when you do just want to sleep because sex seems like too much like hard work.

  • Have you ever masturbated in secret and then felt guilty about it, because you should be having sex with your partner, not wasting it.

  • In fact, do you feel guilty in general about not fulfilling your ‘wifely (or partner) responsibilities’

  • Has sex been painful, you just want to get it over and done with.

  • Has your partner ever wanted you to ‘try’ something and you’ve either done it and felt awful for it, or rejected them outright and hurt their feelings.

  • Does the light stay off during intimate moments, because there are wobbles, bumps, lumps and orange peel that wasn’t there before?

  • Do you want to try something exciting and new, but worried that you’ll be laughed at? Or your girlfriends are telling you about this sex toy they’ve been using and it is amazing, yet your partner has always given the impression that they are not wanted in the bedroom.

  • Has your partner ever suggested an experience with other people (maybe a threesome, a sex club, even watching porn together), but you shot it down and locked it tight.

You might recognise yourself in all, or some of these!

They are all perfectly normal reactions, situations and issues that many women will have experienced. Even me!!

Why? Because we are lacking in education, genuine information and support in our societies and communities. Because great sex is seen as a luxury, something for those without children, for those who have time, for those who are okay with a quick ‘f&*k’ that means nothing. Women who enjoy sex are labelled as sluts, whores, cock-tease and more… I’m not sure about you, but I don’t want a label.

How would it make you feel to be empowered, feel sexy and alive, to ask for what you want, to feel excitement and pleasure? To be excited about sex again!

I enjoy sex, and so can you, if that is what you want!

In 2017 my world changed – all for the better. The sex became more intimate, passionate. The conversations more open. The options more varied. My relationship stronger. My desires were out in the open, not just about sex, but about life. My goals changed and I finally started to work towards them.

Here is the thing – I realised that I didn’t know what I was missing until someone put it under my nose and said – here are the opportunities you have. Here is a safe, genuine space for you to learn about sex and relationships.

WOW – how many other women are out there just accepting their sexual fate because of lack of opportunity.

Are you missing out?

How does this all work?

My strong belief is that safe, genuine information is hard to come by when it comes to sex and relationships. What you’ll be a part of will change your life, and yes it is exciting and scary, all good things take you out of your comfort zone.

So my way… I’ve worked to make the education as interesting and appealing as possible for everyone. I’ve incorporated many different scientific learnings and techniques, explain with relatable stories and share information as straightforward as possible.

But most importantly, it doesn’t have to be boring, and my way is fun and exciting! If you have a good sense of humour, you are in the right place 😊

You, Better and Best Sex – the Course

Over the 12 weeks that we are together, we will cover core sexual information (you know all that sex education that you likely missed) and how it relates to you, as an individual sexual being. These are in no particular order, and some of the content will form part of every module in the course. Here is an idea of what we’ll be chatting about together:

You & Sex

We take you on a journey to find out who you were, who you are, and who you want to be. We call it a sexual narrative (your story).

Sex & The World Around Us

We look at assumptions, myths, social and religious messaging, sexuality, gender, attitudes and values, plus what has influenced us past and present.

You & Sex Talk

We talk about using our voices, how we talk about sex, share our stories, talk to partners and friends, give consent and sexy talk.

Arousal & Desire

We look at desire and arousal in the body, what to look out for and how to change things. I love this subject, this made a huge difference to my sex life.

Anatomy

You can’t ignore the bits and pieces! You’ll learn that unfortunately some of them were ignored for a long time, and why we need to be more open about our anatomy.

Affection & Love

We’ll look at romantic attraction, affection and some of the ways that you can strengthen your relationship outside of sex.

Climax

We look at orgasms, how to have them, how to have more of them, what they mean and how intimacy is a big part of the climax.

Mindfulness

I’ve said I’m not woo-woo haven’t I? Yet I still believe in mindfulness, goal setting, affirmations and the universal energy we have around us. So I’ll drop it in from time to time, you might not even notice it.  

You and Sexual Issues

Whether they have happened already, or will do in the future, recognising when a problem occurs is important. We’ll look at common issues, their root causes and what to do.

Resolving Trauma

Sex and relationships aren’t always roses, and being able to navigate those hard times is just as important. Skills on how to avoid and manage trauma around sex.

Toys and Aids

Using toys and aids can be fun and enjoyable for singles and couples. We’ll talk to you about how to bring sex toys into the conversation and our suggestions.

Taboo Topics

We’ll talk about fantasy, kinks and fetishes, what it means to have them and about a few other taboo sexual topics.

Be one of the first to enjoy the benefits of this amazing programme – let’s get sex positive together!

How will it work, let’s talk practicalities….

Live Sessions

Weekly live webinars with you (and your peers). These will be available for you to watch back or do replay if you cannot make the times.

Workbooks

I like to call these sex-tivities, which will be available after every module to work through in your own time (with or without a partner)

Accountability

I am a stickler for needing to be made accountable for getting things done, so I designed this course to give you accountability too. I’m not talking about you giving me a play by play of your sex-tivities, but even by joining the live-calls each week will keep you on track.

Peer Support

There will be an online community of everyone who has taken the course, so you can share and talk openly, and safely, about what you are learning.

Proviso around confidentiality; What happens in course, stays in course. The teaching part of the modules will all be recorded for you to go back on, but all other person information, including participants on the calls will be anonymous. It is entirely your decision if you want others to hear your story, what you share and how.

Who are we?

Good question, if you missed it at any other point during your journey to me, my name is Jessica Staniforth and I am an Adult Sex Educator, and Clinical Sexologist In-Training. With over 1000 hour of study, and well on my way to completion of my certification with one of the top Sex Coaching experts in America, I live and breath the world of sex and relationships.

Delivering this course with me, as a co-creator is Carol Graham. She is a Psychosexual Therapist with over 10 years of expertise and founded The North Hampshire Clinic. Carol has worked with hundreds of clients, supporting them on issues and concerns around sex and relationships.